Four Hundred Texts on Love (Third Century) 8

15. It you totally fulfill the command to love your neighbor, you will feel no bitterness or resentment against him whatever he does. If this is not the case, then the reason why you fight against your brother is clearly because you seek after transitory things and prefer them to the commandment of love.

Love is never conditional. If you only love someone when they give you no offense, then you don’t really love them at all. I know I often find it hard to love and frequently fail to love at all.